“When you can show each other pure rawness in your power during a moment of a physical and mental break through, is when I can feel us grow closer. Being okay with showing who I am completely, and it being accepted, is when what I have, becomes so real to me.” e talks about working out with her boyfriend, Phil, and why it makes a difference having him there with her.
Phil and I both agree that having each other during a work out makes it much more efficient than when we do it alone. Besides it being a reason to just see each other – it is a day we start right and something we can do for ourselves, as well as for our relationship as a whole.
When I am in my zone , I feel my best. Which is pretty opposite from the outside. I am drenched with sweat, leaving me untouched, and far from picture perfect. For me, there is no better feeling than looking at him and having him look at me no differently.
It is a fact that when you work out – you are happier . You are happy because you did it. You are happy because it adds to your overall mood and health. So why not do it together, killing two birds with one stone?
This past Friday, November 6th, Phil and I were lucky to both have a day off that synced up. This is a rare occasion so when it happens, there is no other mission than to make it count. From start to finish.
5:30 am wake up call. Yoga. (Are we really doing this? We will feel better after. HAH. Well, we are up. We are DOING it. This better not be yoga bootcamp like last time.)
A bunch of much need hip openers later, I watched Phil ease into a headstand. Not going to lie, I wanted to be able to do one too, but in that moment- I loved seeing him excel at it. That morning I told myself it was not about what I could or could not do. It was about being in my day, feeling how I felt, and to start the day how I wanted to –in yoga with him.
Our strengths and weaknesses really inspire me because each time it seems like we pick up a different strength while our weaknesses seem to wither away. I get to witness it all. It is also nice to have someone be able to REMIND you of your growth as well. When you hear, "hey, you absolutely killed it today," it's a great feeling. It is way harder for me to give myself a pat on the back but I know when I deserve one, I will get one from Phil. I can witness him excel at activities better than the last time. A chance to keep seeing each other in a new light.
Later on that day, you could of found us at SoulCycle West Village at Marvin Foster's 1pm class. Once the beat dropped , I could not help but be so happy to be there.
It is this one workout we can do side my side and no words are spoken but it ends up saying everything. I was captivated by Marvin’s ability to take up space with his presence and energy to fill the entire room that day. I don’t remember the music much besides it being so much fun. I was just riding off the vibrations and the notes were just flying off my bike. For anyone who has experience SoulCycle, the soulful moment bleeding into a solid going home song is everything. That is usually when Phil and I both turn to each other with the famous "we made it” look on our faces. Add a few arm slaps to the beat later, and we are home!
“Army” by Ellie Goudling came on. It was the first time I heard it. I had to laugh a bit. I mean, come on. The lyrics seemed to outline that moment with Phil perfectly.
“When I am with you, I’m standing with an army.”
It sounds lame. But that is exactly it. Working out together is much greater then torching some calories. It is a way to be present in a moment of fatigue and excitement. To feel alive. To know that in this moment, we are creating a memory and actually becoming a better person by the second. It peels back another chapter of ourselves we have yet to discover. It's an experience of discovering it for the first time, side by side.
I truly believe if you can’t show your absolute self with each other, there will be a whole lot of things you will continue to be scared to do or even worse, show. People say, "love YOU first then the rest will follow." There is no better test of that than to show your true colors by hitting your edge- pushing passed that uncomfortable place.
“It is just another experience we can bond over and share together. When I am at the point of exhaustion, I can look at you and see you being a beast. I instantly feel the energy I needed. After we have worked through it, we then soak in the glory of it. There is always a great meal to look forward to and time to just wind down.” Phil says when asked why he chooses to be with e during a personal workout.
When he keeps the beat, there is no chance I won’t. When he adds resistance, I will be right there doing the same. When he goes for that extra lap, I guess I am too. It is being your OWN person but also wanting to hit your highest potential. We help each other get to that new peak while just having a blast.
Afterwards we researched cool spots to hit up since we had the day ahead of us. Refueled at Salud (107 Thompson Street, recommend the Quinoa Burger) and then off to enjoy some nicely crafted beers later on in the day. That night (quick change to outfit number three in the car) we headed over to Talde in Jersey City. Met up with some lovely faces and chowed down on many delicious dishes. After the day was through, it seriously felt like a length of a mini vacation. The amount of our hard work is equivalent to how hard we eat. It is about enjoying life too, even if that means going for the dessert.
I met someone who does not think twice about doing anything. Now obviously some limits are met- there have been things I backed out on, a Tough Mudder obstacle that haunts me. But a WHOLE LOT of things I overcame just because of him (even signing up for a Tough Mudder for one.) That is what I choose to focus on. Even the smallest accomplishments count.
Days when I get to see his 6’4 stature at the “ballet” barre is when I am most proud to say, "I'm with that guy." It is crazy to me what I feel having someone willing to just go the extra mile to prove their love and care for me. It is a big deal to be in a room of usually, all women. He does not use it as a reason to stay away which proves the type of person he is.
I am so over being picture perfect. Be real or go home. Witnessing each other spilling our guts on the table is what gives us the secret to staying in it to win it. We appreciate Fitness and the internal mirror it shows us. We can root each other on and talk about it later. Constantly peeling back the layers of ourselves and watching it happen is better than anything on television right now anyways. Seeing where I was last week and where I am today, it is always a new level of myself. It is always challenging. Staying sane in a sticky situation physically and keeping your cool mentally, is proof that you can take it . As humans, I know we can take much more than we think. The days are changing by the minute , good news as well as bad news to follow, but we are always expected to stay standing. We use fitness as a way of displaying our commitment to our lives.
What is better than that? Do something that gives you a story to tell.
Work out for you. Work out for each other. Which ends up working out for the relationship.
We plan to take up rowing, incorporate more paddle boarding towards summer, and set out for a marathon. Why not? Goals are set. Having each other just makes it that much more possible because I want to see him do it , he wants to see me do it. Leaving that being the only option.
In a relationship? Go out maybe once a week with each other to explore some ways to move! Plan a date afterwards. Kick up your feet. Watch yourself for more in love.
100% . Boom. Done.